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「成功」......

「成功」的真意乃是能带来满足感和长期经营,同时又能创造另一种可能的工作和生活。
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CBH Grad Dinner 2009

前兩日,同學仔搞左個校服派對。
由最初幾條友維威喂,變成認真堅嘅校服派對。

哈哈,估唔到,我有生之年都可以試下咁樣玩!
對於呢個派對,我由最初嘅興奮,轉化成無比期待,然後又忘記左,直到慢慢變成唔耐煩,直到唔想去;都只不過係大約兩個月嘅事啦。

其實,真係要好多謝落手落腳搞呢個party嘅同學。由吹水,到籌備,到製作埋本紀念冊出黎,都係靠呢班人將「夢想」變成事實。我覺得好神奇。睇住個豬up出黎既idea,最後變成可以親身參與嘅experience,果一晚,佢地真係創造傳奇一刻!

講返正題先!

派對喺cwb舉行。邀請左d老師、staff呀咁,當然唔少得我地一班同學仔啦!當晚其實影左好多相,不過好多都喺人地架機度,唔知佢地會唔會upload返﹖希望快d有得睇啦!果一晚除左食,都有d遊戲玩。但有個環節好「神」!真係大家當佢神咁拜嘅ceci主持嘅環節!有幾神呢﹖話說果日佢因事冇出席,但都悉心準備左個ppt,同錄簍左video,同我地分享。神就神在雖然個video係預先錄影,但佢好似知道曬d反應位咁,大家幾時會有d講,簡直好似係生神仙,你未出聲已經知你諗乜果隻!「好恐怖呀~~~!」我覺得。

但最令我感動嘅係,點點滴滴令我諗返起以前上堂時嘅感覺。我知道呢d野喺第二度未必搵得返。

ceci同我地講,感謝挫折同挑戰,因為佢令我地學識感恩,同埋加添智慧。
rainbow同我地單腳企。叫我地記住重心喺邊度,同埋重心,係可以轉變的。

OMG,次次都有INSIGHT,真係好唔捨得・





My fave teacher. She was a dancer and now is one of the few Dance Therapist in HK. Her lectures were great. It was her let me know the connection of our body and mind, body doesnt tell lies!


We were really happy and had a lot of fun, which I did not expect beforehand. I think people at there really great at keeping positive and good energy. I felt better and less annoyed when I was hanging out with them.


She supposed graduated last year but for some reason she postponed her study and become a classmate of us. Before she got sick, I think she is a superwoman. Her determination and hardwork are admirable.


Here is another professor that is really interesting. He is just so 'academic"!


hahahah, i would not recognize she is a social worker if she walk in the street in this uniform. I would definitely mistaken her as someone working hard for the public examination!


Say Cheers!

I want it to be my profile pic. But failed :<
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Posted by martharita on 01.2009   1 comments   0 trackback
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Be Competent!

I wasn't ALWAYS this good, I had a lot to learn...

Until one day...


It is empowering. Don't be afraid of making mistakes, don't give up.

"I had to practice, and practice, practice...until one day, my dream came true."
Posted by martharita on 24.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
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Graduation Ceremony 2009

MASTER畢業喇!

從來冇諗過自己讀MASTER,因為大學時覺得再讀上去冇意思。

原來可能係自己遇到既人唔夠叻。

其實,真正既大學係好過癮。

過癮在於人。

在此感謝我所遇到的老師、同學,你地給予過我既幫助。

我由一個從來冇接觸過counseling既人,去到成為可以接觸大師做CASE既香港大學同學仔,

呢d經驗,唔知算唔算幾生修到呢﹖

我感恩,因為可能好多喺出面真正做既social work既人都冇接觸過我所接觸到既野。

我只係喺大學畢業,但喺學習上面,而家只係開始。

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Posted by martharita on 18.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
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Mixed Signals

You likely see yourself very differently from the way others see you. A little self-awareness can prevent a lot of misunderstanding.
By Sam Gosling, published on September 01, 2009 - last reviewed on September 02, 2009

"I'll be there at 2 p.m. sharp," Kirsten assures me as we set up our next research meeting. I make note of it in my calendar—but I put it down as 3 p.m. It's not that Kirsten is trying to fool me; she's just deluded about her time-management skills. After a long history of meetings to which she shows up an hour late, I've realized I have to make allowances for her self-blinding optimism. I don't have unique insight—any of her friends would make the same prediction. In the domain of punctuality, others know Kirsten better than she knows herself.

The difference between how you see yourself and how others see you is not just a matter of egocentrism. Like Kirsten, we all have blind spots. We change our self-conception when we see ourselves through others' eyes. Part of the discrepancy arises because the outsider's perspective affords information you yourself miss—like the fact that it looks like you're scowling when you're listening, or that you talk over other people.

How well we understand ourselves has a profound impact on our ability to navigate the social realm. In some areas, we know ourselves better than others do. But in other areas, we're so biased by our need to see ourselves in a good light that we become strangers to ourselves. By soliciting feedback from other people, we can learn more about ourselves and how we're coming off. Only by understanding how we're seen can we make sure we're sending the right signals. To be understood by others, in other words, the first step is understanding ourselves.

There Is No Perfect Point of View
How do you cut through the fog and learn to see yourself—and others—clearly? Different perspectives provide different information on the self. To bring some order to all the things that can be known about you, it helps to divide them into four categories.

First, there are "bright spots"—things known by both you and others, like the fact that you're politically conservative or talkative. Studies show that traits like extroversion, talkativeness, and dominance are easily observable both to the self and to others. If everyone thinks you're a chatterbox, you probably are.

Second are "dark spots"—things known by neither you nor others. These could include deep unconscious motives that drive your behaviors, like the fact that your relentless ambition is driven by the need to prove wrong your parents' assumption that you'd never amount to much. T hird are "personal spots"—things known only by you, like your tendency to get anxious in crowds or your contempt for your coworkers. And finally, there are "blind spots"—things known only by others, which can include such factors as your level of hostility and defensiveness, your attractiveness, and your intelligence.

The most interesting are the latter two—personal spots and blind spots—since they involve discrepancies between how we see ourselves and how others see us.

Why You're Less Transparent Than You Think
We're not entirely deluded about ourselves. We have pretty unrestricted access, for instance, to what we like and believe; if you think you're in favor of tighter regulation for car emissions or that Bon Iver is your favorite band right now, who am I to argue? Even if you don't know the mysterious unconscious motives underlying what you like and do, you're still the best source of information about your attitudes, beliefs, and preferences.

We often think others are aware of our anxiety or our darkest feelings, but research shows they're actually poor judges of our emotions, intentions, and thoughts. Thomas Gilovich, a psychologist at Cornell, has found that numerous obstacles and psychological biases stand in the way of knowing how you're seen by others. We overestimate the extent to which our internal states are detectable to others—a bias known as the "illusion of transparency." We also overestimate the extent to which our behavior and appearance are noticed and evaluated by others—a bias known as the "spotlight effect."

We're good at judging our own self-esteem, optimism and pessimism, and anything to do with how we feel. So for instance, others may think you're very calm when in fact you're so anxious in large groups that your palms sweat and your heart rate soars.

Personal spots exist because others know how you behave, but they don't know your intentions or feelings, explains Simine Vazire, director of the Personality and Self-Knowledge Lab at Washington University. "If you're quiet at a party, people don't know if it's because you're arrogant and you think you're better than everyone else or because you're shy and don't know how to talk to people," she says. "But you know, because you know your thoughts and feelings. So things like anxiety, optimism and pessimism, your tendency to daydream, and your general level of happiness—what's going on inside of you, rather than things you do—those are things other people have a hard time knowing."

Why Your Intelligence and Attractiveness Elude You
There are a lot of reasons to think you'd be the best judge of you. After all, you've known you longer than anyone else (except, perhaps, your parents). You've spent more time with you than anyone else. You see yourself in all kinds of situations, from solitary reflective moments in your home to dazzling parties surrounded by friends and strangers.

But you're also very biased; you have a vested interest in seeing yourself as decent and competent, and not evil or inept. When it comes to traits that matter to our self-esteem, we tend to have positive delusions—meaning on these dimensions, others see us more accurately than we see ourselves. "Other men's sins are before our eyes," said the Roman philosopher Seneca. "Our own are behind our backs." You rarely get to participate in gossip sessions about yourself, and you have only limited access to how people react to you and what they say.


Posted by martharita on 26.2009   1 comments   0 trackback
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醫療心理學全治良方

He was my teacher.

I still remember he taught me the course of Counseling and Psychotherapy I. He's a nice teacher and shared a lot of cases which were exciting, interesting and extraordinary. He is very experienced in counseling as himself is a professor of psychiatry. He told us that as a therapist, is the one points out the direction for clients, instead of the pointing finger. He also told us that there are 2 kind of people regarded as hopeless case, ones are with biological problems, who cannot handle/take care of themselves properly, the other are 衰格。‚¦[‚ñ 有阿sir咁講,我覺得好好笑。佢冇擺副好高尚或者好清高嘅面孔出黎,反而好真,同直接咁講佢自己認為嘅野。我覺得咁樣好正


現代人提倡科學,信西方醫藥,但據世界衞生組織一項研究發現,有三至五成求診病人,未能找出病因或解釋為何會有病痛。養和醫院 臨牀心理學家李永浩博士,三十年前在港引入醫療心理學療法,並曾在政府醫院提供心理服務,希望藉此助患者找出問題的癥結。
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  除心魔配合治療

  養和醫院臨牀心理學家李永浩(上圖)指,「現時大部分病人,尤其患有嚴重疾病和慢性疾病患者,經常出現未能積極配合治療,導致療效大打折扣的情況,而醫療心理學就像可令生理治療更完整的整合劑般,擔當輔助的角色。」如曾有位腰痛病人,每次接受物理治療後都會拒絕繼續覆診,後來詳談下才得知,原來他非擔心痛楚,而是害怕如果治療失敗,妻子對他的冷嘲熱諷,因此無勇氣面對治療。惟有解除患者的心魔,藥物與物理治療配合,方可繼續發揮功效,而養和醫院乃本港首家引入醫療心理學的私家醫院。

  長期抑鬱損免疫力

  心理學角度上,每人都有可承受壓力的界限,如平日情緒不穩,一旦遇有突發壓力即很易超越界綫,降低身心的免疫力和抵抗能力。因此如平日可盡量放鬆身心,能有助減低患病如流感的機會。外國曾有研究讓多名大學生一同吸入流感病毒,發現非人人都受感染,惟壓力較嚴重者則最易受感染。另一外國研究亦證實,身體長期出現抑鬱,會減低身體對抗細胞病變的能力,從而加患癌風險,以及減弱治療成效。「本港社會約有三成人口,身體本身抵抗力好,可對大部分疾病免疫,估計亦與其健全心理質素有關。」

  減後遺症影響力

  「以往,我曾研究身體傷殘程度會否影響傷者日後的心理壓力,但卻發現兩者完全沒有關係。壓力反而是來自個人對受傷的觀念。曾有只失去尾指的傷者,整日雙手插袋,常幻想別人視他為廢人而意志消沉。反而另一名失去整條右手臂的傷者,卻能專注於擁有而非失去的肢體,積極學習用左手寫字,望可重過正常生活。」因此,李永浩強調疾病的嚴重程度,絕非決定對病人影響深淺的最重要因素,利用醫療心理學讓病人積極面對,可直接減低後遺症對他們的影響力。

  應用於移植病人

  醫療心理學應用在器官移植方面,會從三方面入手。首先是在等候移植時,幫助病人積極面對漫長的等待,讓身心能隨時接受移植手術。移植後則提醒病人接受自己,每日合作服食大量排斥藥物,最後便是協助病人適應移植後的生活。因當病人日漸康復,即需要重新面對就業、經濟和生活壓力。曾有接受心臟移植後的病人,感到親人因其已康復而減少關懷,最終竟選擇自殺輕生。

  ■接受移植者如缺乏適當輔導,或會白白浪費珍貴的損贈器官。


摘自Yahoo新聞


Posted by martharita on 31.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
Category :Reflections on Behavioural Health

毒海重生 正生再出大學生

學壞容易,學好好難。

一池清水好容易可以令佢混濁,但要一晚先能令混濁嘅水變回清池。

今天看到蘋果這篇新聞,的確令我感到人間還有希望!

【本報訊】大學聯招昨日放榜,脫離毒海、今年高考取得良好成績的正生書院前學生黃榮新,獲派第二志願嶺南大學會計學課程,是正生歷來第二名上大學的戒毒學生。不過他有兩次藏毒案底,或令他日後無法成為註冊會計師,他說會坦然面對,「做好自己(就)會有機會。」


有案底或難當會計師
黃榮新正在佐敦一間會計師樓做暑期工,學習入數和核數。當他得悉獲派嶺大會計學時,十分開心,「終於有大學收我讀書。」他之後致電通知母親和阿姨,「佢(母親)好開心,感恩感謝神。」黃榮新的首個志願是入浸會大學會計學系,但也滿意這個結果,他說:「去邊度讀書分別唔大,院校名氣唔係最重要。」

兩年前他會考取得 14分,由正生轉到滙基書院讀預科。上月底高考放榜,他取得 1B2D1E,經傳媒報道後,有一對基督徒夫婦將一張寫了數千元銀碼的支票送到學校給他。他表示,日後入讀嶺南大學後,他會做兼職幫補學費及日常生活開支。

黃榮新今年 25歲,八、九年前開始吸毒,長達三年, 04年因藏毒被判入正生戒毒。他有兩項藏毒案底,可能無法當註冊會計師,「朋友講攞牌方面會有啲難度。」但他仍會盡力讀書,「有啲會計知識好多方面都用得着,唔一定要攞牌做會計師。」

做好自己就會有機會
能夠升上大學,對他來說意義重大,「做好自己(就)會有機會……慢慢見到自己一步步離開以前嘅自己。」

正生六年前出了首名升讀大學的學生。校長陳兆焯說,黃榮新的經歷給政府的啟示是,讀書與戒毒是相輔相承,「最重要係唔吸毒後,我哋點樣可以生活。」


Posted by martharita on 30.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
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Words of Wisdom

近日有很多工作,似乎做極都做不完似的。

plan a等著某人簽名-->外遊未返;plan b需要上頭的上頭核實,待覆;plan c原本進行得如火如荼,突然因plan d進行時間不吻合而有更改。轉頭改為進行plan d籌備工作,原來也得等甲乙丙丁提供「意見」,進行plan d時,突然plan c要啟動了,為配合其他部門的工作時間...,但其實,一直仍有plan e 及plan f繼續進行......

我真不懂怎樣處理。有些人倒輕輕鬆鬆,開會時總能羅列出萬條工作細目,而我就學不懂這套移形換影的轉妝術。

Feeling adequate...




拍拍灰塵,再上路!



Posted by martharita on 21.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
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Rhythm of Life

參加了一workshop,就是之前說的satir workshop。這workshop是為year 1的undergrad學生而設,今天來到了第三天,還有明天就要完結了。

workshop由上午九時開始,直至下午五時完結。開始時間之早,比起上班更有之而過無不及。初初都挺擔心自己是否應付得了。因為估計可能會面對自己一些沉重的事,不過,既來之,則安之。既然是自己報名的,就放開雙手,好好感受一下。

過程是接受得到的,反而是上課時間有點令我吃不消,如前述,上午九時啊!上班都是九時多而已!而且今次用年假,總覺得有點「放假」的感覺,潛意識是不想自己太辛苦了喇!但導師是一位十分嚴格的老師,遲到的同學都被遞個正著,休想「哈he河起」可應酬過去。

每天的第一個練習是默想。導師選的音樂出奇令人舒暢,做罷覺得人輕鬆了些少,對日常生活瑣事感到較有信心平靜面對。假如能夠每天早上做個如此短短的練習,我想對日常生活可能有不錯的影響。

在此workshop,終於初嚐satir的味道。比較正式地學習4種型態,能夠知道congrugent的意思,知道多一點點家人關係的影響。今天做了一次自己的gynogram。結果令自己意外,讓我對自己屋企picture多點反思。多了一點了解,令我對母親的看法改變了。我不願以敵對的角度看對方,這種相處令我很辛苦。但我不抗衡的話,卻是無日無之的煩憂;進不得,退不得;energy仍在,卻在不地轉轉轉,轉得心都慌了,人都累了。

想起靜思語﹕心隨境轉。

說起來容易,要做卻不易。

想起聖經,天主說人心硬,難改。

我不想經歷過甚麼大起大跌,才明白這個道理。

要學啊!要學啊!
Posted by martharita on 27.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
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Rhythms of Life: Invitation to self-awareness

有否某類人,你一眼看上去,便感到「雖無過犯,面目可憎」?

你知道與人溝通,除了指責別人、委屈自己、搜集資料、轉換話題外,還有其他方法嗎?

你會選擇繼續承受已知的痛苦,還是鼓起勇氣,冒險求變,走出創新一步?

你以為你在家中的排行次序有否影響你的性格?

你有否想過,你與家人的關係是可以改善的?

你以為你有能力打破僵局、改善與家人的關係嗎?

你有否想過,你的為人、處世、擇友、擇業等,可能受到家規的影響?

你有否想過,家規是可以改變的?

你以為你有能力扭轉乾坤、改變家規嗎?


以上係我參加Dr Grace Cheung嘅training course嘅內容。好開心,因為估唔到真係有機會試下叫satir!終於有機會上呢d course喇!

未讀呢科前,我有去過satir喺香港嘅office,有去過果度買書,睇下有course,甚至諗過報名參加佢地搞嘅faciliator嘅工作坊,後來因為讀呢科,所以冇去讀。

讀左書之後,愛現輔導方法實在千奇百怪,各有各法,家有家規。第一年上堂真係大開眼界,每位老師喺PCIA demonstrate嘅方法,同學challenge 或者思考嘅方法,都令我呢個門外漢感到更加門外漢!後來升上year 2,總算跟上少少軌道,可惜轉眼間又要離開呢個地方了。CBH唔單止係我之後提取能量、inspiration嘅地方,亦係開啟左自己眼界嘅地方,希望度門打開左,唔會咁快閂返埋啦!

而家再次回歸初初吸引我地輔導嘅地方,感覺更加特別,一種百味紛陳嘅感覺。

Posted by martharita on 15.2009   0 comments   0 trackback
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一個徹底的白羊人。做事憑一股衝勁,接著後勁不繼,即朋友說的3分鐘熱度。怎麼說好呢﹖


即使只有3分鐘熱度,也學習如何好好發揮,成為最漂亮的永恆。

martharita

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事事有時節,天下任何事皆有定時: 生有時,死有時,栽種有時,拔除栽種的亦有時; 殺戮有時,治療有時,拆毀有時,建築有時; 哭有時,笑有時,哀悼有時,舞蹈有時; 拋石有時,堆石有時;擁抱有時,戒避擁抱亦有時; 尋找有時,遺失有時;保存有時,捨棄有時; 撕裂有時,縫綴有時;緘默有時,言談有時, 愛慕有時,憎恨有時;作戰有時,和睦有時。

事事有天主安排。

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